![]() ![]() Now, because I am a person who knows she is sensitive and capable of being vulnerable with any and everyone, I have had to reel that back in at times. I sat with them in their grief and pain and I assured them it was okay to cry in front of me when they tried apologizing for it. When I was in journalism school, reporting on heavy topics like mental health, immigration, race + identity, I’d get some of the BEST quotes and responses from sources because I didn’t have a problem poking at their emotional spots and seeing what I could find, what they would be willing to open up and share with me. More than anything, I want to be able to make audiences feel and if I can do that, then I’m succeeding at my job as a writer and storyteller. It’s helped me with my craft of storytelling. My ability to be “sensitive” and vulnerable is a strength, and so I stand in that truth. I feel what I feel and I’m powerful because of it. I’m comfortable in being seen as “sensitive” because that’s who I am. One of my close friends has a saying I admire “ YOU might be too afraid to be sensitive. Either way, I’ve learned to not take it personally. But, I have often come in contact with people who ARE and in doing so, they have tried to project that part of themselves on to me:Įver have someone tell you any of the above? It’s just a projection (but it could also be them being an asshole!). I’ve never been incredibly stoic or known to stifle my emotions. I’m known for crying and expressing what I feel. willingness to show emotion or to allow one’s weaknesses to be seen or known willingness to risk being emotionally hurt.īeing vulnerable with people has always been easy for me. Music I'm currently vibing to: Jorja Smith - Addicted Quote I'm thinking about:"There is something about our culture that looks down on showing emotion." - Nedra Tawwab Play games together (doesn't matter the game, as long as there’s a challenge where I can kick some ass) Watching movies together and discussing scenes, important themes after the movie ends and how it connects to real-life situations Smiling and all.Ī few other emotionally intimate activities I enjoy: When someone randomly sends me a new artist or new song to listen to, I immediately become happy. This world can be unrelenting in its unkindness and music, for me, is a healthy escape from that. Without music, I don’t think I could make it. Sharing music is also a form of emotional intimacy I love. And yet this man wants to be a math teacher. Was it too much of an ask for you to invest a small amount of time in an activity I enjoyed? He wanted to hear my argument without taking the time to look at the factual research that backed up my claim. I remember we were having a conversation, and I sent him an article to back up my argument, and he said “don’t send me that.” It was irritating. ![]() I’ll never forget when he told me he hated reading. I asked him to teach me his native language, but he didn’t want to. I didn’t get that from the guy who traumatized me. Attract my mind, and my body will surely follow. “I’ll teach you” is one of the most attractive things you can say to me. The stimulation is the same for her, and honestly it’s the same for me, too. In all, I find connection in learning from my partners.Ī new friend I made recently, told me she correlates having intellectual conversations to physical, sexual experiences. I asked another person I knew to teach me words in his native language (Hindi). There was a massage therapist I spent some time with, and I asked him to teach me how to massage. Teaching showed up in past experiences, and I didn't even realize it till last week. It's one of the reasons I have so many mentors. My soul craves learning, and so I require that from my partner, friends and tribe. We exist and move through a world that runs on impatience (capitalism sucks), so if you can take the time to sit me down and teach me something, I find that to be emotionally intimate, which will make me lean into connecting with you on a deeper level. My point in saying this is I am attracted to people who are patient enough to teach me a skill or educate me about a topic. If you know me, you know I consider myself a life-long learner. Last weekend, I began taking some mental notes and writing down the actions I consider "emotionally intimate." Not everyone operates like this, but I do. In order to engage in physical intimacy, I need emotional intimacy. I thought I would share my thoughts here. This week, she asked me “What does being vulnerable look like for you ?” Last week, my therapist asked me to mull over this question: “What does emotional intimacy look like for you ?”Įmotional intimacy is a closeness between two people who feel safe and secure with each other.
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